WHAT IS ABOUT?
More than a
meeting with two people, the marriage has long brought together two
families under the terms of a contract of which only the politician is
guarantor. But, as man is essentially religious, the
encounter with the other in the context of marriage has also been the
encounter with God, which makes the matrimonial relationship a reality
that goes beyond the mere human person..
Nowadays, many people wonder why one has to go to the city hall, still less to the Church to show their love. As
if to make up for lost time, the two lovers decide, without the
knowledge of all, human rights oblige, to live together without
notifying anyone. From guilty concubinage, we move to free unions that do not respect any norm: it is "freedom". The
definition of marriage, which in the usual dictionaries is "the legal
union of a man and a woman" tends to inhibit this duality "man-woman" to
be "a legal union between two people". If we do not take
care, the level may go down even lower, as long as the man is always
trying to devalue himself to make an animal or a machine. Tolerance
certainly forces us to join Voltaire in his: "I do not agree with what
you say, but I will always fight for you to have the right to say it".
In Africa, where the weight of culture and parents is always the norm, customary marriage is the answer. In
this article, we propose to give the strengths and weaknesses of these
three forms of marriage in order to identify the necessary
complementarity.
Indeed, customary marriage
has this charisma to bring young married people closer to their
families, especially since in Africa it is a family that marries
another. This then allows the good integration of the woman
into her new family, which, in the long run, will help him while
avoiding abnormal situations such as divorce.
After a customary marriage, no partner has the right to do what he wants, he has his family on his back. She always has an eye on him. If there is a problem in the couple, she intervenes quickly to bring the ball down. This is the role of the family council headed by the wisest of the family
Nevertheless,
this hand of family in the life of the couple sometimes suffocates at
the risk of breaking the love between the two spouses. The distrust of the daughter-in-law and her mother-in-law has always been decried in all societies in Africa. Supervision of the family towards the young couple has often led to the woman's expedition or polygamy. The
consequence of this conflictual climate is often the jealousy that
makes Africa a continent where witchcraft is still sung as the evil of
all time. There is also reason to wonder about what is behind this witchcraft where most indexed people are still close relatives.
Through marriage, both spouses enter into a contract that unites them. We can not therefore speak of a contract without referring to the rights and duties relating to it. The existence of legal texts has been of paramount importance in the cohabitation of individuals. Wanting to ignore the law in the name of love is a step backwards. It is quite normal that when there is love, no text is more useful. However, to engage in a common life without any precaution is to ignore what love is. This one is not a given fact. She is looking for herself, she is going to talk or she is dying. Take life in its dynamic sense, predict that it can always rock. As a result, one must always prepare to face the tests.
Civil marriage is therefore an answer to its unforeseen. It recalls the duties of each spouse. Moreover, he protects him, restoring him to his rights. Love is not in contradiction with the law but a love without right is not one. If
the law, in its operational mode is presented as a machine, then we
would say like this Egyptian University Senghor Alexandria that amazed
us during the video conference of the "Philosophy Night 2007" which said
paraphrasing a French author "By working with a machine, you end up being a machine".
In reality, the law has no feeling. He says what is what it should be according to convention. But in terms of feelings, the reality is very different. A romantic relationship built solely on legal principles loses its meaning. Married life is indeed more than a contract. It's a life together, and a lifetime are you! Only religious marriage can illuminate this mystery.
The meeting of a man and a woman in marriage involves a third person: God. We do not get married by chance, said a thinker. The chance meeting that opened the curtain of marriage was programmed
by God, which makes theologians say that "we marry the one we should
marry".
Moreover, by human force alone, no marriage can last. In our research on the life of couples, it was difficult to find a couple without problems. The worst is that every couple believes he is the most experienced that others. The French also know when they say "we always feel better in the bed of the other"!
What is missing for some couples is to accept that there is a force external to the man who creates and protects every marriage. And this strength is acquired through the religious marriage that Catholics recognize as a sacrament.
The sacrament of marriage,
just like the other sacraments, is therefore a visible sign of the
encounter with God. Beyond the sign, it vivifies the signifier. By this
sacrament, the signifier and the signified are the same in the action of
the Holy Spirit. God then intervenes in the life of the couple to
perform miracles. He sends down the graces like a sun that sends its
light rays without getting poorer. Can understand this truth, only the
one who made a religious marriage. We encourage you there!
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